Very very sorry - I could not keep my promise of posting on this topic the very next day. One of well wishers, Aruna, reminded me of this and told that if you do not keep your promise on the blog which is read by many others, then i should not be making a promise at all. I promise that i shall be careful next time.
Continuing on this topic further -
Anger is dependent on so many factors - let me list a few.
1. Your impression and opinion of the person who you see as an instigator.
I am sure you will all agree with this. If you hold the person in high esteem and have a good impression already, your anger will never mount. Surprisingly you will not hesitate to concur with him / her, differ with him/her very slightly, not raise your voice at all etc. you may even give a smile (this has happened with me many times)
2. Your impression and opinion (preformed notions) of the topic which is under discussion
Just like a person with whom you are speaking with can cause the anger levels to flutuate, your issue / topic which is being discussed can also cause the anger levels to vary. For example, for the sake of discussion, if you already a strong proponent of a separate telangana, no matter however convincing the argument may be for a United Andhra, you are bound to lose temper or argue vehemently supporting your stance - this will lead to stress and anger.
3. Presence / absence of people around you during a heated discussion.
This also will have a huge bearing on your levels of anger when things go out of control during a discussion. For some, presence of people will act as a deterrent and for some it will be a stimuli. People who are very egoistic will not treat it kindly when in public and lose their temper easily. While others who are very wary of their personal image tend to control the flare up.
4. State of mind at the time of discussion - no explanation needed for this. You would often see people saying - "Orey vaadu manchi mood lo ledu, ippudu gelakkoddu...". It sums up very well this point.
5. Time of the day - Anger levels are low during morning hours and they are high towards the evening and night. This need not be a thumb rule, but is true in most cases, atleast in my case.
6. Prolonged suppressed feelings of hate and strong belief of being discriminated
Very common feeling between husband / wife and master / servant , employee / employer.
Nothing can stop when the threshold is reached. Anger loses all control.
7. Type of food we eat
I cannot vouch for the scientific reasoning behind this, but it is true to a great extent that people who eat lot of non-veg lose temper more easily, when compared to veg. Similarly difference in salt, spice and chilly, masala intake induce different levels of anger in those people.
8. Alcohol - this need not be explained further.
9. Behaviour of majority people around them (family atmosphere)- This is very true in faction ridden / conflict ridden families, when all we get to see around is shouting and screaming, we accept it as a right method to vent our feelings. lot of kids of today have very annoying temper and anger. They have very little tolerance levels. And i am sure you would have seen it in many cases around u. In such families, anger is a necessary means to win their wish. And everyone there understands it very well.
10. Impact from Visual Media (TV, Movie)
Look at any movie - the hero is shown as venting his anger against the villians and killing them, Even the super heroes - Spider Man, Super Man etc, tell us the same, our Puranas and mythology are also full of such stories of courage and valour but are misconstrued by the young Whta they understand and interpret from the whole thing is that showing anger is not a crime at all and what we fail to educate them is that anger has to be productive and not destructive. Which parent today has time to tell their kids ??? You tell me...
11. Impact and influence from their teachers
Once again we see many examples where teachers who should symbolize patience and compassion and use punishment very sparingly, are themselves promoting this dangerous trait. Their shout and scream at their students all the time is not sending any right signals to these kids. And these kids remember only such stimuli in the long run. Once again anger used destructively.
12. Friends and their influence
if you have more friends who are short-tempered and you will easily become one of them. Obviously if you have to win your way through this group you have to behave like them. What starts off as a way to get your presence felt there, slowly starts affecting your other aspects o of your life as well and other circle of people around u. Even before you know about it, you are deeply influenced.
There could be many more factors.
But then why I am writing these factors? It is because each one of us who is troubled by this state of mind, need to introspect and understand what made him that way, If there any stimuli that are constantly responsible for him to behave like that, is it possible to get away from them or stop them completely.
I will spend some time, in my next part in dissecting this problem further, and trying to arrive at ways to eradicate this from the root and at symptoms,
Please help me with your ideas too...it will be very encouraging.,